Book: You Are A Badass
By Jen Sincero
According to Book Jacket: Jen Sincero is a bestselling author and success coach who has helped countless people transform their personal and professional lives via her newsletters, seminars, private sessions, public appearances, articles, products, and books.
A few years ago, Jen said goodbye to her home in California in order to travel the world indefinitely and encourage as many people as possible to live lives of unbridled awesomeness. You can find out more, and sign up for her newsletter at jensincero.com.
Your Brain is Your Bitch
Sincero begins the chapter by establishing that “Our thoughts are the most powerful tools we’ve got” and “To think what you want to think is to think the truth, regardless of appearance.”
What she’s saying is that our thoughts will create our reality. Somebody who believes they can accomplish something is astronomically more likely to accomplish it than a person who doesn’t believe they can.
You’re thinking “well that all sounds great but I’m broke, barely surviving month to month, and to top it all off I walked outside to a bullsh*t parking ticket on my windshield this morning. All this ‘make your life better’ crap is just a waste of time and doesn’t really change anything anyway.”
To this she’d agree, you’re right, it is a bullsh*t ticket and the circumstances of your life will likely never change.
But if you know deep down that this isn’t where you’re supposed to be in life right now, you can feel it in your bones that there is something bigger in store for you and if you could just get over the horizon, almost within reach is everything you ever hoped life would be!
Then get your head right and follow Sincero’s teachings!
Ask and it is Given
“Get quiet, get in The Zone, and get in touch with Source Energy.”
Sincero defines “Source Energy” as God, The Universe, The Lord, a Goddess, The Big Guy, etc. It’s essentially whatever higher power somebody believes along with the overall energy surrounding and within that person.
What she’s saying is to do whatever’s necessary to create an environment where it’s possible to get in touch with one’s spirit or higher consciousness. After accomplishing this state of focus, visualize all you’ve ever wanted out of life, and ask for it.
Act As If
“If you want something badly, even if you don’t have any evidence that it’s possible for you to attain, believe it is anyway.”
If your goal is to go for a swim with the President then go buy the swimsuit because it’s going to happen. Act like it’s happening, surround yourself with people who can help you get there, and keep an open mind to opportunities that could provide an expedient arrival to said goal.
“Live, eat, sleep and breathe your vision. You may feel like a crazy person, but you won’t when you’re playing Marco Polo with the prez.”
Upgrade Your Environment
“If you aspire to have a more up-leveled and inspiring lifestyle than you presently have, and you’re actually visualizing this for yourself, it’s going to be quite a struggle to keep your thoughts large and in charge if every time you pull up to your rickety-ass home you hear the Sanford and Son theme song start up in your head.”
In short, tidy your place up. Let’s say you have roommates and know for damn sure a post-apocalyptic world seasoned by nuclear winter is more likely to be your reality than them cleaning the apartment then just do your best to carve out some space for yourself.
Create an environment that motivates you. Add inspiring art or posters to the walls, change out furniture, improve the overall decor, and be sure that when you step into this space, all is possible.
Make a Vision Board
“Feeding your mind full of images of the things and experiences that you want to manifest…is hugely powerful because your mind sends that image out to Source Energy which begins the process of pulling it in.”
Find images of people, places and things that motivate you. For example, the Manhatten penthouse with a breathtaking view of New York City. Your dream car, good times with your best friends, and really anything that you’d like to have more of in your life works.
Sincero advocates putting these photos onto a board, however, maybe take it one step further and cover your entire room with these motivations that way every day, when you wake up, you are reminded of all the glorious things life can be as long as you stay focused!
Surround Yourself with People Who Think the Way You Want to Think
“When you hang out with whiners, pessimists, tweakers, bleakers, freakers-outers, and life-is-so-unfairers, it’s an uphill climb to keep yourself in a positive headspace.”
“Surround yourself with people who act on their big ideas, who take action on making positive change in the world and who see nothing as out of their reach.”
Dumping toxic people out of our lives can be easier said than done at times. For example, what if the person or people holding us back are the ones we care about the most? This is often the case for anybody coming up from the bottom.
The answer is simple, it’s time to make new friends.
“Being around inspired, visionary, enthusiastic people who are living their truths is one of the fastest ways to massively transform your life.”
Author’s Note: Having struggled with this before, I once noted:
“I’m not holding a flame to any of my bridges. My gates are open and will always be open, that’s just how I am. But if the person on the other end of the bridge decides they don’t like what they see going on over here or they don’t agree with the decisions I’m making in the pursuit of my happiness then there is nothing I could do – there is nothing I should do – to stop them from burning the bridge down themselves.”
Love Yourself
“Unless you have a better idea.”
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